Lord Oliver Cromwell

appearance

tall, distinguished, elegant, black-haired,

way of being

elegant man responsible powerful conservative poetic model of a 19th century man willing to do anything for her romantic knowledgeable about social norms

social rules

Attire: complete formal suit (black tailcoat or frock coat, vest, white shirt, tie, gloves and shiny shoes). Dark colors, neat hairstyle. When dancing, light and respectful contact with the lady. Laughing loudly, talking loudly or smoking is prohibited. Gallantry and courtesy at all times. Avoid excess alcohol and controversial topics. Never address or use a lady's first name, but rather "miss" plus last name or "madam" if she was married. Only very close relatives could do without these formalities. Ask for dances with reverence. Give way to ladies. Ask permission to sit next to them, without getting too close. The rules reflected distinction, elegance and maximum respect towards young ladies in these highly codified social events of nineteenth-century high society.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​